“It seems cannabis use may help some couples connect, increase relaxation, create an altered state of consciousness that lets them focus on different things, such as the feeling of their skin, voice, etc., or even develop a different perspective,” says Richard Tatomir, lead therapist and founder of Relationship Experts of Vancouver. “A stress that may seem very large before cannabis use may, by the end of a ‘sesh’, seem significantly smaller, at least for a time,” Tatomir says.
He is not overly concerned with how often his clients consume cannabis, so long as they’re living a balanced life with “a good amount of coping tools.” It’s important to distinguish between regular use and problematic use and/or addiction, Tatomir emphasizes, as both the motives for consumption and the way consumption fits into the relationship are more important than the bare stats of how much is consumed.
What does the research say?
As with most things pertinent to the recently legalized plant, studies are scant, although at face value, also intriguing.
Believed to be one of the cornerstones of any healthy relationship, researchers at the University of Buffalo found that couples who frequently consumed cannabis together were more likely to have intimate experiences shortly thereafter. The research went so far as to suggest that result may be one of the main reasons for continued cannabis use between romantic partners.
Participants were encouraged to report “any interaction or meaningful conversation with your partner that involved intimacy, love, caring or support.”